Marriage mercy oceans book 2 Mawlana Shaykh Nazim

Marriage

In Islam marriage is one of the holiest actions. In reality
it is the first order from Allah Almighty to mankind. It
is the base for every good character. Without marriage
neither men nor women can be safe from the attacks of
devils, and the king of devils is Satan. Every religion
urges people to marry, and in every religion fornication
is the worst evil. The well-being of the world hinges
upon marriage, closing doors to many evils and protecting
people from falling into Hell.
In Islam marriage is a sacred foundation; it must be
kept very carefully. In Islam women have rights and
men have rights. Both sides must respect each other’s
rights. That is the Lord’s advice to us. A marriage
which makes Allah Almighty pleased, is when both
keep respect towards each other. Marriage is the foundation
and the family is a social building. There must
be one head for every building. In Islam, Allah makes
the husband the head of the family, and his wife should
obey him. A lovely family making the Lord pleased is
when the wife obeys the husband. In Islam, when the
husband obeys the wife, he is a sinner, and if the wife is
causing him to listen to her, she also is a sinner. When
the husband is obeying the wife, he is disobeying the
Lord. Husbands must use wisdom; women believe easily,
their hearts are fine. A husband, when going to do
something, may ask his wife; it does not mean her answer
is an order. When she is asked, she may say, ‘As
you like.’ That woman makes her Lord pleased with
her. If asking, ‘May I go, may I buy, may I do,’ that is
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the good manner of a lady. A lady; the exact meaning
is to be so gentle, especially to husbands. Now they
are very polite with strangers, but very hard on their
husbands, like a hell-mouth. Subhanallah, she must be
more polite to her husband than to anyone, and then
Allah makes him an excellent husband for her.
In Islam it is forbidden for a husband to look at
strange women and for a wife to look at strange men. A
man must look to his wife as the most sweet and beautiful.
Harâm is not sweet, it is poison for you. A woman
must look to her husband as the most sweet and
handsome person, because she is not concerned with
others. Her paradise is with her husband, and a man’s
is with his wife. When Adam was in Paradise, walking
alone, too much pressure was in his heart. He was not
taking any pleasure until Allah created Eve, his wife.
Then Paradise was full of pleasures; before that it was
empty. Man without woman is incomplete, and woman
without man is incomplete. No one can be proud over
the other; they complete each other in this life and the
life hereafter.
What is the first thing parents should teach their
children? According to the hadith of the Prophet, peace
and blessings be upon him, make his first speech to be
the Holy name of our Lord, to say ‘Allâh, Allâh, Allâh.’
Whoever speaks this firstly we hope he may speak it
lastly.
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