The Good Advice,
Sultan Sheikh Mehmet Adil al-Haqqani,
Sobeth August 6, 2014.
Lefke - Cyprus
As-salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Audhu Billahi min ash-shaytani rajim. Bismillahi r-Rahmani r-Rahim. As-salatu wa s-salamu ala Rasulina Muhammadin Sayyidi l- Awwalina wa l-akhirin. Madad ya RasulAllah, madad ya Mashayikhına fi t-Tariqati n- Naqshibandiyya, madad ya Mawlana Shaykh Abdullah Faizi d-Dağıstani, madad ya Shaykh Muhammed Nazım el-Haqqani, dastoor. Tariqatuna as-sohbah, wa l-khayru fi jam'iyyah.
This is a prayer of our Prophet (sas): Allahumma inna naudhu bika min shururi anfusina wa min sayyiati a'malina. It is a beautiful prayer, a very beautiful prayer. May Allah protect us from the badness of our ego, may Allah protect us from bad deeds. We should not do bad actions. A person believes something is good but if he listens to his ego and acts according to his ego it ends badly. But when he acts according to Allah's will, he fights against his ego then it becomes good.
We do something and think we did something good. No, it is not goodness, you did it to satisfy your ego. That becomes a bad deed, when you think you did good. It means, if you did someone a favour, do not rub it in, do not remind him. Do not spoil your good deeds. "Do not invalidate your charity by reminders" (2:264). You both remind him and poke him. "I did this, I did that." That poor man cannot say anything so he keeps silent, but Allah sees everything. That deed will not be accepted by Allah Azza wa Jalla.
Of course whoever you are, doesn't matter, whether you say "I'm a scholar, I'm an awliya," you have to accept advice. Advice is for Allah. The person who is giving advice, may Allah be pleased with him, he also gives advice for the sake of Allah. He has to be careful about the advice he gives, whether it is in keeping with Islam or not. You may say something from your own mind, you might say it will be better this way. Ok, what you say may be very nice, but, it does not fit with Islam. If it does not suit the situation it will not be accepted. May Allah be pleased with them.
Everytime someone hears advice he must not be offended. Most people do not like taking advice. Normally a believer should not offend or be offended by advice. If it is suitable, if what he says is right, then we respect it, if not, Allah bless him, you can say it's his opinion, in his mind it was better. There is no need to be angry with that man. He gave an advice for Allah, he thought this way is better. For this reason, on such issues it is not good to get angry or keep a grudge. Allah knows.
It is a test from Allah Azza wa Jalla, He made the man speak to train your ego. So do not be offended. You can say may Allah bless you, you are right. You say ok, you will check the situation. If he accepts you can say, the situation is like this, that. But some people who give advice, they don't accept taking advice themselves. You say ok, let it pass to not break his heart. So this way, you crush your ego and you will gain goodness.
As we said everybody needs advice. In the past, people used to take advice, nowadays nobody takes any advice. Like we said before, most of the advice comes from their own opinions. Such advice is not acceptable. There is Prophet's (sas) hadith, praying "Allahumma inna na'udhu bika min shururi anfusina wa sayyi'ati a'malina". We are getting afraid from our ego. Allah keep our ego and our bad actions away from us. This is very good, very nice saying from Prophet's (sas) praying.
Alhamdulillah, because the ego does every bad thing, every time we must obey advice from people, from big, from old, from young. Who gives advice for us, we can accept and we must be happy. Don't say, "I am scholar, I am sheikh, I am doctor, I am engineer, this man, he is not understanding." No, you must look because they give precious things; advice. Before, in old times they were saying for an advice, you can give 1000 camels. It is an Arabic saying, but I think it was for making people accept advice.
Don't be proud, when somebody is saying something to you, you must look at it. Many times they say, Alhamdulillah if you accept, you'll be good in front of Allah and Prophet (sas) and Awliya. But some of them of course, they give advice, but it's not advice, it is a bad thing, rubbish thing. How is this advice? They say, "Why are you fasting in summertime? It's too hot, and you are ill, you are like this, like that. It will make problems for your health, for your body, for your mind". This is not advice. What they say is advice for ego, not against ego.
Or if they see you giving sadaqa or zakat, "Why you give these people? You are better to keep for you, yourself, for your children. No need to give this." This is also not advice. Many people, specially dunya people, materialist people, what they give is not advice. This is only rubbish, they have millions of advices like this to keep you away from right way, to make your ego bigger and bigger.
Some people, they are also giving good advice, sometimes they can have wrong ideas, but even this, because they have good intention, Allah rewards them for this. But you know their situation of Islam is not with your opinion but even this, when you do this with good intention Allah rewards you for this. And to be listening to this and saying, "ok, Alhamdulillah, thank you, you gave me good advice, you make your ego down and you'll be happy with this one who gave advice and you'll be happy.
On the other side, if you are very proud and say "what are you doing, why are you saying this?" So you become angry and this man also will become angry. So it will be your ego, your shaytan and everything bad, it will be happy, and you will not be happy. So you must accept from our brother, from our relative, or who are in right way and you know them, they have good intention when they say something. You must be happy with it, even if it is right or wrong, it is ok, because all is coming by good intention not with something under it, no, it is just a pure thing. Many people they have everything, these material people, you can see they come for benefit of dunya and benefit for their self and their ego.
Alhamdulillah, Mawlana many years he was speaking against ego, to be in adab, good manners. This is good manners and this is what Mawlana he was teaching us. So you must be careful for this. Don't mix-up materialist people with the pure people.
Wa min Allahi at-tawfiq al-Fatiha.